Coaching
We all encounter times in our lives where we find ourselves in the deep end, and that’s where coaching shines. Maybe life has handed you a chapter you didn’t expect. Maybe you’ve been carrying a quiet sense that there’s more available to you than what you’re currently living. Maybe you’ve spent years being told — directly or indirectly — that the way you think, feel, or move through the world is the problem. Whatever brought you here, coaching begins with a different premise entirely: Nothing is broken. Everything is information.
Coaching is not therapy, mentoring, or consulting. It doesn’t diagnose you, advise you, or hand you a roadmap someone else drew. Instead, it works from a radical trust in your own capacity to discover what is true, what is needed, and what is possible — for you, in your life, at this particular moment. My role is not to fix you. It is to accompany you into the terrain of your own experience with curiosity, compassion, and an unwillingness to settle for less than what genuinely wants to come alive in you.
What makes coaching transformative is not the answers it provides, but the quality of inquiry it opens. New levels of understanding and personal agency don’t arrive by leaping straight to solutions — they emerge through a willingness to sit with what is present, to name what has previously gone unnamed, and to discover that the confusion, the vulnerability, the not-knowing, are not signs that something has gone wrong. They are the threshold. They are where growth actually begins.
My coaching is informed by ontological coaching, polarity thinking, and developmental psychology — three frameworks that together offer an unusually rich and integrated approach to human growth. You’ll find each of them described below.
I actively maintain my PCC credential with the International Coaching Federation, and adhere to the ICF Code of Ethics.
Ontological Coaching
Most approaches to personal and professional development focus on what we do — the habits we form, the skills we build, the strategies we execute. Ontological coaching goes deeper. It works at the level of being — the quality of awareness, perception, and presence from which all of our actions flow.
The insight at the heart of ontological coaching is simple but profound: action arises from perception. We don’t see the world as it is — we see it as we are. The lens through which we observe our situation determines not only what possibilities for action we can see, but the quality of meaning and purpose that infuses everything we do. Change the observer, and the actions — and the results — change with it.
Consider a leader who had spent years believing that her job was to prevent failure. She was diligent, careful, thorough — and quietly stuck. Through the kind of deep inquiry that ontological coaching makes possible, she arrived at a moment of recognition: she had been operating entirely through the lens of fear. And a lens of fear, however sophisticated, can only produce results shaped by fear. What followed was a transformative process of discovery — not of new strategies, but of a new way of being. She began to find out who she was capable of being as a visionary leader, not just a leader who keeps things from going wrong. The results, in every dimension of her work, were profound.
This kind of shift becomes possible through working with three dimensions of human experience that ontological coaching recognizes as inseparable: Body, Emotions, and Language — the BEL model. Each of these is not just a tool we use, but a domain in which our identity and our perception of reality are held. By cultivating awareness across all three, and by applying the Observer-Action-Results (OAR) model — which illuminates how our quality of being directly produces our results — we begin to loosen the grip of habitual modes of perception that have quietly been running the show. Read more about the OAR and BEL models →
What becomes available on the other side is not just new behavior. It is a fundamentally expanded sense of what is possible — for you, in your work, in your relationships, and in your life.
I completed my certified coach training in 2018 at Newfield Network, a world-class ontological coach training program based in the USA and Latin America. For a taste of the principles that Newfield Network’s approach is based on, listen to Julio Olalla’s TED talk.
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Polarities
Some problems can be solved. You identify the cause, apply the solution, and move on. But some of the most persistent challenges in life don’t work that way — because they aren’t problems to be solved. They are polarities to be leveraged.
A polarity is a pair of interdependent values or needs that are both essential over time. You can’t choose one and be done with the other — both are always present, always necessary, always in dynamic relationship. Confidence and Humility. Justice and Mercy. Acceptance and Ambition. Connection and Separation. Each pole has its genuine gifts, and each has its shadow side when taken to an extreme.
Here is where it gets paradoxical — and where so many of us get stuck. When we fear the downside of one pole, we instinctively push hard toward the other. But overdoing any pole eventually produces the very outcome we were trying to avoid. The leader who fears being seen as arrogant overcorrects into excessive humility — and eventually loses the confidence of their team. The person who fears abandonment clings so tightly that they push people away. The more urgently we try to escape one extreme, the more reliably we end up there.
This is not a character flaw. It is the natural result of a poorly leveraged polarity. And once you can see it clearly — once you can name the poles, map the cycle, and understand what is driving the swing — something shifts. The vicious cycle becomes a virtuous one. The either/or trap opens into a both/and possibility.
Polarity mapping is a structured coaching tool that facilitates exactly this. Together we identify where you are getting caught in a vicious cycle, clarify the genuine gifts of both poles, and design practices that help you leverage the best of each — moving with the natural rhythm of the polarity rather than against it.
I hold a certification in PACT™ Foundations & Professional Applications with Polarity Partnerships. 
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Developmental Coaching
One of the most liberating discoveries in modern psychology is also one of the least widely known: adults don’t stop growing up. Development doesn’t end at eighteen, or twenty-five, or whenever we achieve the markers our culture associates with maturity. The capacity for genuine psychological and spiritual growth continues throughout our entire lives — and the later stages of that growth open possibilities that most people never imagine are available to them.
Developmental research has mapped these stages with remarkable consistency across cultures and traditions. Each stage doesn’t just add new skills — it transforms the entire lens through which we see ourselves, other people, and the world. One of the most striking examples is the capacity for genuine perspective-taking: not just intellectually acknowledging that others see things differently, but actually learning to inhabit another’s perspective — to understand from the inside how the world looks and feels from where they stand, and then integrate that understanding into a richer, more inclusive view of reality. This capacity makes possible things that earlier stages simply cannot access: deeper emotional intimacy in relationships, genuine unity across difference in leadership, and real empathy in the face of neurodiversity.
What makes developmental coaching distinct is that this kind of growth cannot be shortcut. It is not achieved by learning the right frameworks or adopting the right beliefs. It emerges through a process — one that requires honest engagement with the parts of ourselves we would rather not look at directly.
This is where shadow work enters. Shadow is any distortion of reality we still carry unconsciously — the places where our way of making sense of life distorts the truth of who we are or how the world actually works. Shadow doesn’t announce itself. It shows up in our reactions, our blind spots, the patterns we keep repeating despite our best intentions. And here is the counterintuitive truth at the heart of this work: shame doesn’t fix anything. It drives it deeper — further into the unconscious, where it operates with increasing sophistication. What actually resolves shadow is genuine self-honesty combined with unconditional self-compassion. Not judgment. Not self-improvement. Honest, loving contact with what is actually there.
This is not easy work. I know because I do it myself — not as a credential, but as an ongoing practice that I expect will continue for the rest of my life. The further I go, the more I find. And the more I find, the more I understand why this work matters — not just for individuals, but for the new world that is possible. I work with clients who are ready to stop trying to conceal or fix their shadow and start genuinely transforming it.
I completed a series of courses on developmental topics with Terri O’Fallon, Kim Barta, and Michael Spayd between 2017 and 2022, covering techniques for shadow resolution and for working with challenges that arise at higher stages of development. For a detailed overview of how developmental theory can be used to facilitate shadow work, I recommend this talk by Kim Barta at IEC 2020.
